Thursday, August 30, 2012

Romance isn't about flowers and hot sex? #Romancing the HopBlogHop


Romance is Being Part of a Team

    This is going to sound soooo unromantic coming from a romance author, but I think that often romance isn’t about flowers and jewelry. Not even about a spicy bedroom life or passionate kisses.

    Often, the most romantic thing about a relationship is being a team. Individually, each partner is pretty good. Together, they can be downright unstoppable. You know that expression “two heads are better than one?” Well, what if those two “heads” were not only committed intellectually, but also romantically? That bond—that close-in-a-way-you’ve-never-been-with-anyone-else-bond—can be the force that makes it easier to get things done.

    Whether it’s dealing with a personal battle, brainstorming ideas for a book (yep, my awesome hubby does this for me!), painting a room, or making an important financial decision, working as a team can strengthen a relationship and bring more power to a situation.

    Of course, flowers, jewelry and passion add a nice layer to the team. Showing you care, and that you’re thinking of the other person even when they’re not around, is very romantic, too!

    What makes your relationship romantic? I’d love to hear from you!! Leave a comment, and you'll be entered to win in lots of awesome ways:
1. $5 Amazon or Barnes and Noble gift certificate! I'll pick one commenter (chosen by random.org) from all comments left between now and midnight September 3rd from my blog.
2. Blog Hop prizes! Your comment here also makes you eligible for:
1st Grand Prize: A Kindle Fire or Nook Tablet
2nd Grand Prize: A $130 Amazon or B&N Gift Card
3rd Grand Prize: A Large Swag Pack (open to U.S. only)
 
Check out all the particpants in A Romancing the Hop Blog Hop  The more blogs you comment on, the more chances you have to win a Kindle Fire/Nook Color Grand Prize, $130 gift card, and large swag pack. PLEASE COMMENT WITH YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS so we know how to contact you.
Thanks very much for stopping by!
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Check out all the participating bloggers in Romancing the Hop Blog Hop. The more you visit and comment, the higher your chances of winning the grand prize. Please remember to leave your email address.
 


82 comments:

Lorraine said...

What makes my relationship romantic is the awesome little boy that it created... when I see my husband looking at him with loving eyes I get all gooeyy :)
martiandelights at hotmail.co.uk

iamindeed said...

He reminds me to laugh - centers and grounds me. I manage to get him to laugh and relax and verbalize.. and he removes spiders.
You can't ask for more than that....
thanks for participating!

glhince@gmail.com

Feather Stone said...

Thanks for the opportunity to meet you. I love your idea of romance, the extended version that goes deeper than the passionate kiss. It's knowing what your lover is thinking with just a glance, the look on his face, his body language.
featherstone.author@gmail.com

molly.frenzel said...

I agree with your idea of romance in a relationship. Having a united front is romantic and something that's important.
molly dot frenzel at gmail dot com

Andrea Gregory said...

I agree, you could kiss without "romance" you have to have teamwork trying to accomplish like goals in life to have true romance.

kegasg@aol.com

Kelsey Summer said...

I agree with you. My husband isn't too the flowers and since I'm perpetually on a diet, I'd kill him if he brought chocolates home, but our romance is just being together. We met young and have now been married for almost twenty years with three beautiful children. It's love!

kesummer69 at gmail dot com

Jean MP said...

I think for us it is the great team we make and the fact he can make me laugh and not take myself too seriously.

skpetal at hotmail dot com

Shannon Ro said...

I think what makes our relationship romantic is doing all the little things, saying I love you, giving a kiss goodnight, helping each other out, encouraging and supporting each other. It doesn't have to be a grand gesture just daily support and love.

fencingromein at hotmail dot com

Lona said...

I have been married long enough that my husband cleaning the house before I get home is romantic. lol. Thx for giveaway.

blinkysthebest at aol dot com

Barbara B. said...

I think, just the fact that we have been married for 30 years makes our relationship romantic! It's rare these days for a long. And, he still opens doors for me, holds hands... It's the little things, you know?

Barbara
bbsbooknook@aol.com

Nay Nay said...

What a great hop! Grand prizes, old friends to visit and new ones to meet… and chances to win at each stop too. I’m in Blog heaven!
<^_^>
I am a sucker for the HEA. All my favorite authors give me a great story line, characters I can identify with, hot love scenes and a perfect HEA!
Thanks for being part of the hop and for the chance to win.
reneebennett35(at)yahoo(dot)com

Loupe Duffy said...

Thanks for the chance! To me what makes my romance work is the great respect for one another and being there for each other.
Thanks!
I love discovering new authors.

Diana Leigh said...

Thinking the same things are funny. Laughing together.

Diana
bookofsecrets(at)yahoo(dot)com

Danielle Angeline said...

Joya - great blog! What is more romantice- your guy coming out of the bathroom and saying to his gal you need to call the plumber to fix the toilet seat or him asking for a screw drive so HE can fix the toilet seat?

Liese2 said...

My husband will bring home dinner on really busy nights so I have the evening off!
sqwallker2@hotmail.com

Jesse Kimmel-Freeman said...

Being able to look at him and know that we can weather what comes our way. :0)
Jess
jesse.kimmelfreeman@gmail.com

DeeDee Griffin said...

It's romantic when my husband goes out of his way to do something for me just to make me happy.
deedee [at[] grifmail [dot] com

Miriam Whitewolf said...

If he wakes befor i do and makes the coffee instead of waiting for me to do it. picking up his socks off the floor. :) little things like that.

miriam.whitewolf@gmail.com

Di said...

What you said is so true - it's a partnership & that's a balancing act. The unexpected little things are the best.
sallans d at yahoo dot com

Kaylyn D. said...

Our relationship is romantic because after 7 years we can still make each other giggle like teenagers. Laughter is very important to me. Without laughter you can't be happy. (IMO) Thanks for the giveaway.
kaylyndavis1986@yahoo.com

crystaley73 said...

The little things and the fact that family is so specail.
crystaley73 at yahoo dot com

Tamara Hoffa said...

The small things say romance to me. Touching my hand as he passes my chair.
Fixing my coffee just right, rubbing my shoulders after a long day

sugerlady@aol.com

Michelle Bledsoe said...

My marriage to my husband is romantic to me because of the little things he does. Mainly that he lets me be ME. Also, he is really great with my daughter and my mother who is an invalid. I don't need showy expressions of romance. Just having him with me everyday is romantic.
koonie2888 at yahoo dot com

Delphina said...

The little things people do just because.

Cryscringle said...

My relationship is romantic because my boyfriend does little, nice, thoughtful things for me whenever he can and I do the same for him. We show each other a great amount of love, kindness, and respect. :)

craigcrystal(at)ymail(dot)com

Celeste Jones said...

I agree. That feeling that someone has got your back, especially if they are willing to rub it too, is very special.

celestejones215 at rocketmail dot com

mcv said...

You know there is nothing more romantic than seeing an elderly couple walk hand in hand obviously still in love.
I'm not elderly yet but DH and I are still going strong at almost 40 years.
mcv111 at hotmail dot com

Carin said...

I have learned that it is a romantic gesture on my hubby's part when he gets the oil changed so I don't have to or picks up my favorite candy bar for me when he stops at the store. It's all about him taking care of me :O) Carin
mawmom at gmail dot com

JanD said...

Understanding each other so that any obstacle can be solved makes a relationship romantic.
bituin76 AT hotmail DOT com

Anonymous said...

J.F.A
Hi! thanks for hosting the giveaway! the little things that he does like flowers or little love notes. Hope i get a chance to win!
californiazgold(at)gmail(dot)com

Cathy M said...

He makes me laugh, holds my hands at the movies, and snggles on the catch when we watch Tv together.

Caity_mack@yahoo dot com

Cassandra said...

The little things mean the most to me :) Thanks for the awesome and amazing giveaway!
cassandrahicks1989@yahoo.com

Veronika said...

The feelings and love makes a relationship romantic! Thank you for the giveaway!
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Krystal Shannan said...

Romance is about building a lasting relationship. Great hop! krystalshannan(at)yahoo.com

Elizabeth H. said...

I don't have a relationship but I think what would make a relationship romantic is never forgetting to appreciate the other person. Thank you for the awesome post and great giveaway!
ehaney578 at aol dot com

Karen H in NC said...

I'm not in a relationship, but if I were, I think laughter and play keeps a romance alive and well.

Thanks for the giveaway.

kareninnc at gmail dot com

Qwillia Rain said...

For me, romance is all about the trust and respect built between the characters. Since I write BDSM, these elements are very important.
Thank you for participating in the blog hop!
qwilliarain(at)gmail(dot)com

Yvette said...

Even after 28 years of marriage I simply love hanging out with my hubby.
Yvette
Yratpatrol@aol.com

Lisa said...

I think the most romantic part of our relationship is the way hubby loves our kids. It is the most beautiful thing I have ever seen

Wolphcall(at)bellsouth(dot)net

ronnkelly3 said...

I love when my husband touches the nape of my neck , it is his way of showing me his love for me...I also love when he set's up our massage table and calls me to our bedroom to give me a full body massage....that is romance...


ronnkelly3@aol.com

Shan said...

Any selfless act that my partner does is romantic, because a lot of time he can be selfish and so can I. It's the times he thinks of my needs before his or anyone elses that make me happy and feel loved. We definitely need a little bit more of that.

sam1slim1@gmail.com

booklover0226 said...

Doing something fun and unexpected each month.

Thanks,
Tracey D
booklover0226 at gmail dot com

Shadow said...

Thanks for the awesome hop and giveaways! This is so much fun! Thank you! My favorite thing about romance is the romance. lol I love the characters, the plots, the HEA's, the love. I love it all!
shadowluvs2read(at)gmail(dot)com

Eileen said...

I never thought about it that way before and I think you are right. My husband and I are a team in so many ways. I like doing things with him more than without him. It's more fun that way.
edor628@verizon.net

Vanessa N. said...

I believe that trust and passion are important in a relationship.

mythic021@gmail.com

Teresa Thompson said...

My husband makes it romantic. He does little things every day to make sure I know he loves me.
marine.mom42@hotmail.com

Mel Bourn said...

Romance is the looks from afar, the texts to say they are thinking of you, and the touch on the arm.
Mel
bournmelissa at hotmail dot com

Krista said...

Romance is definitely more than flowers and jewelry. It's about the little unexpected things that you do for one another.

Thanks for doing this giveaway!
~Krista
pinkbonanza{ AT }gmail{ DOT }com

Stephanie Huff said...

I agree with you that teamwork is probably more important than anything else in romance, and laughing. My husband and I laugh a lot! Thanks for the giveaway!
snhoveln(at)gmail(dot)com

Foretta said...

Great post!! I think the little things that are done out of the blue just because he loves you are the most romantic!!

thanks for the contest!!
forettarose@yahoo.com

Lynn Cahoon said...

He makes my heart leap when he calls me.

lcahoon7@gmail.com

Belinda said...

Romance Hop...awesome idea! Best love story for me..Pretty Woman...romance indeed with the must have HEA!... :-) I am not in a relationship but if I were respect and humor a must...

Nice to checkout your page! Thanks for the opportunity!

Belinda belgre@comcast.net

donnas said...

Thanks for being part of the hop

bacchus76 at myself dot com

Mary Jo said...

Sharing our lives and love for our children and doing things together for 35 years is pretty romantic!

maryjooller [at] yahoo [dot] com

Dovile said...

I'm not in a relationship right now, but I agree with you that being a team is what is the most romantic about it.
Thanks for the chance!

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HJSisco said...

What makes mine and my husbands relationship romantic is that we are considerate of each other and each one of us excels where the other fails which works perfectly!
Thanks for the hop!
kaylas_1mom@yahoo.com

Victoria said...

Mine does the cutest thing for a couple that's been married 21 yrs. We'll be out, as in going to the mall, and as soon as I get out of the car he takes my hand.

vsloboda(at)gmail(dot)com

Patti said...

Thanks for participating! Really like the hop so far!! I love reading, especially romance. I love reading contemporary, historical and erotic romance. I love the happy ending that is garenteed at the end. My favorite book is Lover Mine by JR Ward! I love John Matthew and Xhex. My favorite romantic moment was when my fiancé asked me to marry him! We meant two years ago right around when summer was ending! I think it is romantic when he brings me flowers because no one else has ever done it! My friend and I went out for our last big night out before classes started again. Thanks so much! Hope everyone else is having a great long weekend!!

prettyunicorn78@yahoo.com

kittyb78 said...

It's about the intimacy between partners and no, not sex. Being able to feel one anothers
feeling and express them without words. To know what your partner needs and wants before they even ask. The soul deep connection.
Thanks for participating in the hop and giving us all a chance to win.
bidelia78@yahoo.com

Yazmin said...

Well, I'm not currently in a relationship. But I think it's always the little things that make a big difference. Thank you for being part of the blog hop. :)

yazmin.z.rangel@gmail.com

Nancy Weeks said...

I love this post. My hubby and I have been a great team from day one. This weekend is my 31st wedding anniversary and I'm so blessed to have the sweetest,most romantic man in my life. The last time he bought me a nice piece of jewery was my engagement ring. We don't go on fancy romantic vacations or do any of the many things people think are so romantic.
What makes him so amazing are the hundreds of sweet little things he does all the time. My favorite: every night, no matter how tired we are, he always leans over and kisses me good night and says, "thank you for marrying me. How sweet is that! Blind blowing sex,fabulous jewery, exotic vacations can never beat that.

Sarah Kalaitzidis said...

Thanks for the great giveaway!!
red_tigergirl2(at)hotmail(dot)com

HaveBook WillSurvive said...

I would have to say laughter.
havebookwillsurvive at gmail.com

Ingeborg said...

Having someone there when you feel alone.
Kit3247(at)aol(dot)com

Kim D said...

Thanks tons for the hop! I only read romance. My fav is Lora Leigh! Going to parade Monday with brothers and sisters! Should be FUN!
swkimbell@yahoo.com

Daniel M said...

not in a relationship anymore - regnod(at)yahoo(d0t)com

jessica said...

I'm not in a relationship so I'm not sure what would make it romantic. I think that being there for each other would make it romantic. Thanks for being a part of the hop. I hope that you have a great labor day weekend.
jessangil at gmail dot com
-Jessica

bn100 said...

Care and respect

bn100candg(at)hotmail(dot)com

Michele said...

Sometimes, it IS about the flowers and hot sex :)

shermie40 at yahoo dot com

miki said...

For me you need to stay attentive to the other, never takes him/her for granted and keep telling him and showing him how you feel

thank you a lot for the giveaway

isabelle(dot)frisch(at)gmail(dot)com

Anna said...

My relationship isn't very romantic, which is why I like to read Romances. ;-)

Thanks for the hop!
AnnaM.
doxisrcool at aol.com

bettycd said...

I find the trust and understanding developed over the years, very romantic.
tjandbcd at optonline dot net
Thanks for participating in the hop

Lindsay Avalon said...

What makes my relationship romantic is that fact that if something really matters to me, my husband remembers it. He knows the names of my favorite authors, my favorite stuffed animals, and my favorite places to visit. I know that no matter what, I'm the most important person in his life.

lindsayavalon (at) gmail (dot) com

Beckey said...

Being romantic is a part of a true loving relationship.
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latishajean said...

I don't have any romance in my life but love to read about it! Thank you for the great giveaway happy endings are great in romance books!
tishajean@ charter.net

BLHmistress said...

I recently just got back with my true love and he opens the car door for me and I love just laying there at night with him holding me. stealing little kisses and telling me he loves me.

vampiremistress2010(at)gmail(dot)com

jessiel said...

What makes my relationship romantic is knowing that I have found my soulmate, friend, lover & husband in one man. He makes me laugh, angry with frustration, but most of all he makes me feel truly loved. Thanks for being part of this hop!
JessieL62@comcast.net

Sherry said...

I love coming home to dinner already fixed.
sstrode at scrtc dot com

Tina B said...

What makes my relationship romantic is that no matter what, we are always there for each other. I like to do little things for him, like bring him home a favorite snack. :)
Wonderful giveaway and hop. Thank you.
trb0917 at gmail.com

Calisa Rhose said...

My husband does it all. Flowers, candy, jewelry/gifts and he gives a great massage! That he has a wicked sense of humor is the topper even after 29 years (Sept 6th). :)

June M. said...

I am not in a relationship right now, so my romance comes from great books ;)
Thanks for the giveaway: :)
June
manning_j2004 at yahoo dot com

Joya said...

Thank you all so very much for your wonderful comments. Wow!! Such awesome stories about how you keep romance in your life. Men need to take note of these stories from you!!

Kelsey Summer is the winner of the $5 Amazon or Barnes & Noble gift certificate from my blog.
Fingers crossed that one of you wins one of the grand prizes!!!
Kelsey--I sent you an email.
Thanks again, everyone!! :)