Monday, August 8, 2011

Cassandra Carr, Guest Author

Welcome to author Cassandra Carr today. She's taking over my blog, while I take over hers for a day. She asks a great question: Why can’t real men be like my erotic romance heroes? –
This is an age-old question. From the time romance novels became popular, women have been asking why their men can’t behave/look more like the heroes in their stories. I am here to offer a few reasons why:

Real men don’t just “have” great bodies. They have to spend a significant portion of their time exercising. And when they’re at the gym that long, they aren’t attending to our “needs”, whether that means a foot massage, a night of hot sex, or doing the dishes (hey, I don’t know about you but I fantasize about my man doing the dishes without being asked!).

Real men aren’t all brawny, virile beasts who make you feel like a small, delicate flower in comparison. Some are tall, some are short, some are thin, some are beefier. But do you want a perfect-looking guy? Personally, it would give me a complex. I’ll take my five foot six husband, thanks very much. I can’t wear high heels, but they pinch my feet anyway and I don’t have to crane my neck every time I want to gaze upon his hotness.

Real men don’t have unlimited supplies of testosterone. I mean really – what woman wants to put up a guy who’s constantly up for sex? (Wait, don’t answer that…) And what about a guy who lasted all night? Craig Ferguson is on, people!

Real men don’t all have exciting careers as international spies and special forces soldiers. Truthfully, I wouldn’t want my man to have either occupation – neither is home very often, which leads me back to that whole “attending to my needs” thing. My hubby has a fairly regular nine-to-five job, which means he’s home at night. He entertains my daughter while I write and then keeps my bed warm at night. How could I ask for more?

Then there are the things that make real men better than romance heroes:

Real men aren’t fazed by the minutiae in life. They pick up the kids from day care, wipe the runny noses, fix the leaky toilet, and trim the bushes. They go to the grocery store, crawl through the bounce house, and change the sheets in the baby’s crib after she spits up. How many of us can actually picture the typical romance hero doing all of that?

So there you are, ladies. Real men aren’t like romance heroes, but when it comes down to it, do we really want them to be?

Bio: Cassandra Carr lives in Western New York with her husband, Inspiration, and her daughter, Too Cute for Words. When not writing she enjoys watching hockey and hanging out on Twitter. Her debut novel, Talk to Me, was released by Loose Id on March 22, 2011. For more information about Cassandra, check out her website at, "like" her Facebook fan page at or follow her on Twitter at

Buy links:
Loose Id
Barnes & Noble


Laura Kaye said...

I always love these comparisons! Fun and oh so true!

Joya said...

Thanks for stopping by, Laura. You're so right about the comparisons being fun and true. :)

Cassandra Carr said...

Hi Laura!

Nice to see you here! Isn't it a fun comparison? Our poor hubbys look a lot better now, don't they?

Cara Bristol said...

Great post, Cassandra. I love reading about uber macho heroes but in real life, it would be too much of a good thing.

Read en erotic romance a while back about a polygamous marriage between one woman and four horny men. Could you imagine that in real life? Holy crap!

BTW, I enjoyed Talk to Me. Good job.

HockeyVampiress said...

Hey Cassandra.
Love the post but I still would love the chance to try out the other side of the bed with a hot sexy alpha.

Cassandra Carr said...

Hi Cara and HockeyVampiress!

Cara - I seriously need to make you a hat - Cassandra Carr PR Department. Thank you SO MUCH for the support. I appreciate it more than I can say! And I think I know the book you're talking about. I'd be exhausted.

HockeyVampiress - I'd definitely love the challenge of taking on an Alpha male, but honestly, overall they'd probably annoy me. I kind of like being in charge. ;-)

Emma Lai said...

Excellent points, Cassandra!

Cassandra Carr said...

Thanks Emma, and thanks for stopping by!

Joya said...

Thanks so much for stopping by today, Cassandra. Great (and fun) topic! Best wishes for continued success with your writing and your latest release, TALK TO ME. :)

Cassandra Carr said...

Thanks for having me - this was a blast!